#ItWasntMe

Don’t know what I can say about Claudette that wouldn’t come back to haunt me,
Finally had to give her up ’bout the time she began to want me.
But I know God has mercy on them who are slandered and humiliated.
I’d a-done anything for that woman if she didn’t make me feel so obligated.

“The Groom’s Still Waiting At The Altar” by Bob Dylan

Ever since the Harvey Weinstein story broke, there has been a torrent of women from all walks of life rushing to tell their tales of abuse, often using the hashtag #MeToo.

Now, I get that men can be jerks at best and criminals at worse. I am a man. I know what we men are capable of on the dark side of things. I also get that this matter has turned from spotlighting inexcusable words and deeds to a lengthy airing of grievances against all things Y chromosome, and it’s getting quite tiresome.

There is a difference between unwanted touching and a guy a woman doesn’t want asking her out asking her out anyway. There is a difference between “suggestions” that certain favors be exchanged for career advancement and telling a co-worker she looks nice for the sole purpose of telling a co-worker she looks nice. There is a difference between stalking and attempting to strike up a conversation. Really, there is. Regrettably, the incidents of authentic abuse are now drowning beneath a screeching tsunami of every everything coming from a man that in any fashion bothers a woman being lumped together with said authentic abuse. It is manbashing on a whole new level. And it’s not making anything better.

What we are seeing is a natural byproduct of wholesale rejection by men and women of Scriptural relationship guidance. The man’s obligation is to love and take care of/protect the woman. The woman’s obligation is to love the man and respect his position as the relationship’s leader. These days, good luck finding much of either of these directives being put into practice. Lot of simpering spineless beta males. Lot of bitchy domineering women leveling impossible demands on men yet not for a millisecond willing to accept their proper role in a relationship. And we wonder why we’re a self-destructive society.

I have nothing but sympathy and support for women who have suffered at the hands of men. I have nothing but contempt for males — for men they are not — who abuse women in any fashion. I also have zero patience for women who, as was mentioned in a previous post about why they don’t date The Nice Guy™, believe they have every right to have every item on their shopping list checked off before any man can so much as say hello to them.

Grow up, girls. That guy who was by your definition a jerk to you?

#ItWasntMe

Want to find a reason why you can’t meet any “good” men? The reason why you have nothing to do but whine on social media every weekend?

#ItIsntMe

And it most likely isn’t most of the guys you’re bashing.